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A LETTER OF APOLOGY

By Anonymous

This is an open letter of apology from the Board of Directors of the U.S. Christian and Missionary Alliance (C&MA) to all who were victims of abuse, including those identified in the Final Report of the Independent Commission of Inquiry in April 1999 and in the course of other investigations. It is the intent of the C&MA to express its deepest regrets for the significant trauma that you experienced during your most impressionable years.

When the C&MA established an independent process for reporting past abuse in 2007, it led the U.S. C&MA to investigate two cases and the C&MA in Canada to investigate one. Through this process, a number of other concerns were raised related to the policies for the education of missionary children that existed in the 1940s through 1980s. At the time, most children, beginning as young as six years of age, were required to attend a boarding school operated by either the C&MA or another mission agency. For some children, early separation from parents left deep feelings of abandonment and rejection. Many parents were likewise grieving the separation from the children they loved, while they were sharing the love of Christ with others who desperately needed to hear the message of salvation and hope.

The investigation also concluded that some school administrators, teachers and dormitory parents were not properly trained for or sensitive to the individual needs of the children with whom they were entrusted. Methods of discipline were at times harsh, humiliating, insensitive and abusive.

We, the Board of Directors of the C&MA, recognize that the policy of mandatory boarding school was hurtful to many and abusive to some, leading to a lifetime of significant pain. With sincerest remorse, we acknowledge that some MKs, now adults, suffered physical and sexual abuse, molestation and exploitation at the hands of dorm parents, teachers, peers and other missionaries.

As the responsible body, we apologize that we did not take adequate steps to prevent the specific incidences that have been confirmed in both the Final Report and the more recent investigations conducted by the C&MA.

We acknowledge and apologize to the courageous individuals who initially brought to light the reality that abuse had occurred in C&MA schools but were not given a sympathetic hearing and as a result suffered additional pain and anguish.

We acknowledge that the C&MA acted with a lack of sensitivity to missionary children by placing them in boarding schools without first considering their needs above the needs of their parents or the C&MA. We acknowledge that some individuals who served as dorm parents were not adequately trained in caring for children. We apologize that some of us in our church were complacent as our sisters and brothers in the Body of Jesus Christ suffered the loss of their innocence, had childhoods stolen, lost opportunities to enjoy more of the fullness of life that God offers all in Jesus Christ (John 10:10b) and lost a child’s ability to trust the people of the church.

We have learned over the years how some children were hurt by the physical separation from their parents and by the actions of those who were supposed to be caregivers. We are deeply sorry for the significant trauma these actions caused for those weakest and most vulnerable in our ministry—our children.

We are grateful to God for the courage of the wounded who have come forward to tell their stories and to help the C&MA purify its house and promote healing of those who have suffered abuse and deep hurt. We continue to invite others who have been abused physically or sexually to come forward. We are committed to promote healing so that each individual may be restored to God’s intended wholeness.

In closing, the C&MA Board of Directors asks your forgiveness for the pain and trauma that you suffered while under the care of C&MA dorm parents, teachers and missionaries. Our door is always open to any of you who wish to speak with us personally.

May the God of peace redeem what was meant for evil and bring glory to His Name.

Ron Morrison
Chairman, Board of Directors
U.S. C&MA


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If you are serious about this apology, why not send this by letter to every alumni of C&MA schools including diplomatic and state department students who attended a CMA school. I know very very few MK’s who read Alliance Life! Most of them will never know of this letter.

If you “continue to invite others who have been abused physically or sexually to come forward”, where are they to come? There is no process given, and they will certainly not be writing to the denomination!

Being an alumnus of Mamou Academy in Guinea, West Africa in the 60’s, I shudder when I read the above injunction, “Posting of comments may be delayed up to 48 hours to allow for…content filtering”! These are ominously familiar words to all Mamou MK’s—our letters to our parents were read and returned to us for re-writing if there was any kind of longing, sadness, loneliness, or distress expressed.

For any who may be interested, a new documentary film, All God’s Children, documents the years of abuse at Mamou Alliance Academy. It is the anguished struggle of 3 families to come to terms with the abuse they experienced in the name of God.

Lois Shellrude
Pastor of Community Life and Worship
Bedford Community Church
Bedford Hills, NY

Posted by: Lois Shellrude | 2 February 2009 at 10:45pm
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There are resources available for survivors or their parents, who would like to find support and assistance. They may contact MK Safety Net at http://www.mksafetynet.net/ or participate in a supportive forum at http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/mkadvocates/

Rich Phillips
President, MKSN

Posted by: Rich Phillips | 8 February 2009 at 4:01pm
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The retreat for Mamou alumni in 1999 concluded with apologies from Peter Nanfelt representing the CMA-US and Bert McBride representing the CMA-Canada The contrast between the apologies could not have been starker. Bert McBride wept throughout the entire apology and said in the strongest possible terms that they had sinned against MKs and their parents. Peter Nanfelt’s statement came across as a ‘bureaucratic statement of regret for the hurt caused’ and one had the sense that it was motivated by the need to say it for public relations purposes. As one who lived through the horrors of Mamou from the ages of 6-16, this letter from the Board is closer in tone and content to Nanfelt’s apology than to the one from Bert McBride. It has the feel of a carefully crafted statement to get the denomination off the hook with the CMA constituency and perhaps even the courts. However for those of us who lived through the abuse it rings hollow.

Glen Shellrude,Ph.D.
Associate Professor of New Testament
Alliance Theological Seminary – NYC

Posted by: Dr. Glen Shellrude | 11 February 2009 at 9:45am
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Thank you for this apology and admission from the Board. This is a courageous step. Having been classmates with many of those MKs who expressed privately to us their hurts and wounds it is encouraging to know that they were listened to now nearly 50 years later.

Paul S. McKean
class of 1964

Posted by: Paul McKean | 14 February 2009 at 1:49pm
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Editor’s note: The following response to A Letter of Apology was received via email from an alife subscriber:

I just read the letter in alife and want to thank you so much for going forward with this difficult step. I want to thank you for acknowledging those of us who have no specific horror story, no specific abuse, but still struggled with being sent so far from home at the tender age of six. I, for one, was so confused, even though my parents tried very hard to prepare me for the experience. Now that I am in my 50’s I am able to look back and see the impact these early experiences have had on my life.

I know that God has held me in the center of His hand each and every day of my life, and I thank the Lord and The Alliance for allowing me to have so many wonderful experiences as a child; but I also want to thank you for beginning the healing process in so many of us by writing this letter and acknowledging the feelings we have but didn’t know how to voice.

Thank you for your leadership in this.

Under His healing wing,

Pat

Posted by: Editor | 16 February 2009 at 8:37pm
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Posted by: Editorâs Response | 17 February 2009 at 10:08am
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Dear C&MA Board of Directors,

We are C&MA adult MKs. Carol’s siblings and she all attended Dalat School from first through 12th grade (time span of 1955-1980). Steve and his siblings all attended Dalat School and his two brothers and one sister graduated from Dalat. Our children, Josh, Jordan, and Justin all began attending Dalat School when they entered first grade. They are now in grades 7, 9, and 10. Steve’s parents, Gordon and Jean Strong, were dorm parents at Dalat School. The total years our families have had members at Dalat School is around fifty years. Steve is presently serving on the Dalat International School Board as a representative for the C&MA USA. We appreciate your letter to us apologizing for the abuse and trauma suffered by some. We understand your intent behind the letter and genuine “heart” in expressing your sorrow and asking for forgiveness for the hurt and harm that was inflicted on some individuals. We know your letter was to address the abusive situations that did occur, necessitating the apology. However, we want to acknowledge the positive affect boarding school had in our lives and to thank the Alliance for providing excellent educational opportunities for us and now our children.

We are not sorry that we attended boarding school for most of our schooling years. We are not angry with our parents. We are not angry with God or the church or the C&MA. We were privileged to live in a Christian community and to be a part of a wider family. We are not sorry that our three sons are currently attending Dalat School. The dorm parents, teachers, and staff have enriched our lives. Yes, there were some who should never have been at a school or in a dorm, but the majority loved us, taught us, and showed Christ to us. There should be a hall of fame for many of the teachers and dorm parents who have served through the years, even as there should be a hall of shame for those who abused the children entrusted to them. Midge and Chuck Fowler, Char and Woody Stemple, Ed and Claire Miner, Dr. Debbie Jenkins (formerly Bainer), Mr. John Sellen, Miss Forbes, Miss Kathy Urban, Mr. and Mrs. Baxter, and Ed and Kathy Tulloch are just a few of the names that immediately come to mind as people who impacted our lives and loved us above and beyond the call of duty. At our wedding my father thanked the teachers and dorm parents at Dalat for the part they had in raising me. We are grateful for the teachers and dorm parents who are helping to raise our sons. Our children are the better for it.

We want to thank you for the quality of the education you provided for us. You sent us trained and dedicated teachers. Our experience is with Dalat, but I am sure it is the same with the other boarding schools run by the C&MA. The education we received was excellent and prepared us well for our future. We and our peers were able to go to top schools throughout the world. We and our peers were sought after by colleges and given scholarships because of the well-rounded education we received in C&MA schools. If you were to track the lives of all the children who attended C&MA boarding schools you would find them in every field and expertise. You will find them on every mission field in the world. Many are teaching and dorm parenting and involved in the administration of boarding schools today. And, instead of being bitter and angry because of their experiences in boarding school, the majority of them would have fond memories of boarding school.
While we need to acknowledge the wrong that was done we also need to acknowledge that boarding schools were a necessity for educating missionary children. While the need for boarding schools has lessened in our current global reality (there are options for schooling when in the past there were none), they are still needed. We are still trying to reach the unreached peoples of the world. The missionary force cannot all live near international schools. Home schooling is not an option for some. So even if we would like to wipe boarding schools off the face of the earth as “evil” institutions it would be wrong to do so. One of our biggest issues as missionaries is still the education of our children. We have learned from the past that forcing everyone to go to boarding school was a mistake. It would also be a mistake to force everyone to home school or to find a local schooling option. Boarding schools are still needed— especially if we are still sending people to the places in the world that are the hardest to reach.

Through the years we have learned from our mistakes. There have also been positive changes that have occurred as a result of evaluating and investigating how we “do” boarding schools. Gone are the dorms of 40 children to one dorm parent couple. There are all sorts of organizations and associations that train and evaluate boarding programs. But in the end there are no perfect institutions just as there are no perfect people.

We live in an age where everyone wants to guarantee their safety and the safety of their children. If things go wrong someone must be to blame and someone needs to pay. The reality is that we can take precautions, we can do everything right, and yet bad things will still happen. I do not know of anyone, whether they attended boarding schools or not, who has grown up without scars. When our parents sent us and when we sent our own sons to boarding school, we were not placing our trust in the school, the dorm parents, the staff, or the C&MA. We put our trust in God and in His love and care for our children. Their lives were and are in God’s hands and we know that whatever happens, good or bad, God redeems our lives and there is beauty in ashes.

Thank you for your letter and for the spirit behind the words. And thank you for the excellent education you provide for our children. We are truly grateful and we are so sorry we haven’t thanked you before now.

Gratefully,

Steve and Carol Strong

Posted by: Steve and Carol Strong | 24 February 2009 at 10:56pm
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As one who was extremely traumatized by the secretive, abusive process of ‘investigation’ of the ICI (Independent Committee of Inquiry), not to mention the final report’‘s erroneous conclusion that “the abuse occurred because none of the adults were accountable or took the responsibility which belonged to them…,” I find Ron Morrison’s letter of apology in the February 2009 Alliance Life offensive. If he had contented himself with apologizing for alleged abuse, that would have been one thing; but he included the whole boarding school process as well. How far back are we going to go with this fad of apologizing for the past? My great-great-great grandfather left a wife and daughter in America to be one of the first American missionaries to Sierra Leone in 1847. How about an apology to his descendents because he ‘abandoned’ his family and died in that foreign land? Maybe we should track down the children of all the missionary martyrs and apologize for their deaths as well. After all, they should have put family first as we do today. I am so tired of the rush to follow the world in this bemoaning of the past. I thank the Lord that my parents committed me to His care as a child, and trusted Him to see me through three boarding schools, all of which have given me many fond memories (yes, including the one made ‘infamous’ by three families who looked long and hard for support for their crusade from other alumni and didn’t find it). Lest we forget that boarding schools were started at the request of PARENTS—not mission boards—and served a GOOD purpose, because they kept families together for at least part of the year in an era when the only other option was complete separation for years at a time, as in the case of my great-great-great grandfather. I understand that times and options change, but just as we accept the fact that we no longer use dunce caps for disciplinary purposes in schools, we should also accept the fact that the past cannot be judged by present-day options.

Posted by: Janet Weiss | 27 February 2009 at 2:52pm
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I would like to comment on the “Letter of Apology”. First of all, I wonder why the dates of 1940-1980 were chosen as the perimeters of the apology given that MK schools existed years before the 1940 date and a lot of abuse went on during that time.
That said I would like to express that for myself the boarding school experience was for the most part good. The quality of education was superior to what home schooling would have provided at that time. Also the experience of living and interacting with so many different people has given me a wider experience that I’d have had if I’d stayed at home. And I’m a much stronger person for this experience. All in all, I’m very thankful for it.

Posted by: Jean Thibodeaux | 27 February 2009 at 4:02pm
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I am a missionary kid. I was born while my parents were in home service preparing to go to Burkina Faso, then Upper Volta, West Africa. I have loved every minute of being an MK, it defines who I am. When I was seven I went of to boarding school for the first time. I was excited and had been bugging my parents about going for years since all my older friends already attended. It was a little scary to get on the bus and leave home for the first time but it was also really exciting to be finally going off to school with all my friends. I loved my new dorm parents Jewel and Evan Evans, they were awesome. They took such care of all of us kids just like we were their own. They disciplined us like loving parents as well. I had some well deserved spankings and was grounded a few times too. My parents visited when they could and made it for every important event. When they came my sisters and I had the fun of choosing which friends to bring out to the mission guest house to spend the weekend with our parents. When my parents left, yes we were a little sad but our dorm parents and friends were always there for us and we soon forgot to be sad with all the fun things we had to do. We always had wonderful long vacations at home but by the end of vacation we were always more than ready to go back to school.

I loved my experience at ICA and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I cried when I heard they had to evacuate the school and I was really sad when I heard they finally had to close the doors due to the political turmoil in the Cote d’ Ivoire. ICA had an excellent and very high standard of education. No school I ever attended in the States was as challenging as the curriculum at ICA. The teachers were very helpful when I had a problem and since I was the test case for a child with learning disabilities for the school I had many problems. My mother was always there to go to bat for me whenever there was an issue that she felt needed to be dealt with. Everyone at the school from the Principal to the teachers I had to all my dorm parents had nothing but my best interests at heart. Life wasn’t perfect but I loved my experience at ICA and all my siblings and most of my fellow students share that feeling.

When I read the apology letter to all MK’s I was sad that some MK’s had such a horrible experience but I felt that the letter neglected to mention all of us who have had such wonderful experiences at boarding school. I think a thank you letter should have been written to all the wonderful teachers and dorm parents and boarding school staff that DID do a good job. I feel for those people who were abused at that one boarding school but it was a long time ago and I don’t think they should tar all the schools and all the staff with the same brush. The Alliance had good intentions in making boarding school mandatory as what else are missionaries to do with their children for a good education while they are in ministry? Mom tried to home school me one year but I hated it and she didn’t like it much either. I think ICA was the best option for me and I loved every minute I spent there. Yes, I went to school young but all my friends were there already and I wanted to go. I certainly wasn’t traumatized nor do I have deep feelings of loss and abandonment. I knew Mom and Dad still loved me and would have loved having me home all the time but I knew that wasn’t possible. I also knew they’d visit when they could and would be there for all the important events. I also knew my dorm parents loved me and considered it a great honor and responsibility to take care of us for our parents that was their ministry to the missionaries. God called many wonderful people to be a part of my life as ICA staff and along with my parents; they helped to shape me into the person I am today.

Posted by: Ruth (Conkle) King ICA Class of '95 | 28 February 2009 at 8:48am
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Hello,
I can relate to the abuse in boarding school twofold.
First as an American Indian my grandparents were forced to go to boarding schools as children where they were supposedly acculturated into “English life” and were assigned English surnames. As with many instances where weaker folk are entrusted in a group setting away from home the temptation is high to get away with some things that should never happen. I am not sure of their treatment at the school but my grandmother did not want to accept she was an Indian. My brother is searching to find the ‘English’ ancestor with that name. I know he will never find him but he would not accept that our grandparents were lined up like orphans in ‘Oliver Twist’ and assigned names.
The second part of the trauma is that I was made to go to a day care where I was sexually abused yet nobody ever listened to me even though I begged never to go back. Mom would say ‘Yeah you do’ and I had to endure the abuse and insensitiveness and it scarred me throughout my childhood where I was easily intimidated and a target for bullying.
I commonly wonder if my singleness is due to this as opposed to what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7. I pray about this all the time. God has helped me a lot over the years but I will need more of His divine healing.
There are a lot of Native American people out there who are turned off to the ‘white man religion ‘ due to such abuse and I would ask that you pray for our Native American people as a whole because we are one of the least groups to heed the gospel.
Thank you for hearing me and I pray healing for the folks who had to endure the trauma of your boarding schools.
Mary Randi
Osage/Cherokee/Choctaw

Posted by: mary Randi | 28 February 2009 at 11:29am
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Almost without exception, the above comments express one-dimensional views; i.e., either negative or positive. But isn’t life too complex for simply-expressed viewpoints? Allow me to demonstrate:

As an MK from Peru from the mid-40s to the early 60s, I was sent off at age six to the Alliance Academy in Quito, Ecuador. This was to ensure that I received the level of education that was on a par with that in the USA...., or was it to keep me and my siblings out of the way so that both my parents could fulfill their mission unfettered by child-rearing? Or was it both of these reasons? And whose idea was this? Not mine, that’s for sure. My parents’? Not sure. The C&MA’s? Probably.

My life at the boarding school? And since? Depends on the day, the year, or the decade. At first, I cried way more (openly, at least) than others did. I turned to the dorm mother ‘du jour’ because she was sympathetic and caring, but she had 40 other children to tend to as well. I needed to turn to my parents, but although we were required to write weekly letters to our parents, our letters were censored to ensure we did not report anything that would lay bare Inconvenient Truths &/or distract and demoralize our parents. I felt lonely, unnoticed, and unwanted. I grew glum and withdrawn. My growing paranoia became a self-fulfilling prophecy. After my eventual independence as an adult, I became angry, then bitter, then cynical. Finally, as I approached my mid-40s, I began to accept that the C&MA’s policy on MKs was mostly a product of those times—an expression of a cultural system far larger than my parents, the school, or the C&MA itself could control.

From what I have heard or experienced, many (if not most) families quickly grew dysfunctional and remain so to this day, as even the siblings had little opportunity to interact with each other under normal circumstances. Our two-week Christmas vacations offered a chance for uninterrupted family happiness, but sometimes our parents couldn’t afford the roundtrip plane tickets and we were farmed out to teachers or other adults. (Trust me when I tell you this was salt in the wounds!) When we returned home for the summer, we unloaded our pent-up complaints on our hapless parents for the first few weeks, then settled down to a quasi-normal family life (whenever Dad wasn’t away on his frequent trips). Boredom eventually set in, making our return to school faintly bearable.

Individual responsibility for acts of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse by adults or peers? Adults who were not screened out for—or trained regarding—sexual depravity, sadism, or indifference could easily create opportunities to wreak their individual brands of havoc on defenseless children. Almost unlimited opportunities existed for the older or more aggressive kids to abuse their peers, since the dorm parents were in charge of not only 40+ children, but the kitchen, laundry, grounds, and maintenance crews as well. Regardless, reprehensible acts of cruelty should weigh heavily on the consciences of the perpetrators.

Acts of physical and sexual abuse by dorm parents on children they don’t really care about are the most inexcusable of crimes. I have spoken with or heard about MKs who are still emotionally scarred as mature adults, and who fully deserve sincere and complete apologies from their tormentors (if they are still alive), plus paid counseling or therapy to enable the most recovery possible. It is for good reason that these forms of abuse are sensational and have gotten the attention (finally) they deserve.

There is, though, another form of abuse that has gone largely unnoticed. Let us call it Abusive Neglect. It is the basis upon which the more egregious forms of abuse are even possible. Without constant and caring vigilance, physical and sexual abuse could flourish. Neglecting children is a ‘sin of omission,’ but still… even those who escaped the more abhorrent forms of abuse could easily suffer silently, unnoticed in the shadows and invisible in broad daylight. By creating a system of child “care” that allowed the majority of children to be neglected, the mission created an environment in which scores of children had reason to feel insignificant and unloved. Just try to calculate the short- and long-term effects of low self-esteem!

As for C&MA Board’s apology, I was amazed at the extent of regret expressed. It was a very brave thing to do. I’m afraid, however, that the attempt to ‘turn the page’ was incomplete, at best. To borrow an expression from recent news articles, “The page must be read before it is turned.” The board’s apology is akin to scanning The Page, but I’m afraid at least one paragraph has been skipped. I hope I have succeeded in reading that paragraph out loud in this comment.

Now, let’s figure out how to get the whole Page delivered to those MKs who—for the reasons stated above—have severed their affiliation with the C&MA, and are unlikely to read the Alliance Life or this electronic form of it. Social networks overlap each other…. How about copying this web address into an email, and passing it on to everyone you know?

Best regards,
Richard

Posted by: Richard | 6 March 2009 at 11:57am
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Hello,

The apology — as noted in other comments — is good only as far as it goes.

The C&MA has not acted on its grave moral responsibility to identify and individually reach out to all those (missionary and non-missionary) children who attended its boarding schools.

As well, beyond the Mamou ICI, the C&MA has not committed itself to a fully independent inquiry process, in order to obtain an impartial rendering of events in all of its schools.

Moreover, the Alliance has not fully embraced the full spectrum of survivors — to lovingly include those who continue to this day to struggle. Until the complete range of stakeholders in this issue are meaningfully incorporated into the process and offered meaningful restorative action, the denomination’s efforts will be inadequate.

And finally, the apology embodies a false concept of forgiveness — that once forgiveness is requested, the offender is “off the hook”. Instead, the model readily available to us is that of Christ and the thief on the cross. The Savior forgave the thief of his sins, but — rather than lift him down from the cross and restored his life, as He could have — Christ still required the thief to pay the worldly price for his transgressions. In the same manner, the Alliance apology does not relieve it of its earthly responsibilities, with regard to restoration of survivors.

Unless and until the Alliance embraces and acts fully on the above concepts, its’ efforts in this area will be deficient.

Rich Phillips
President, MK Safety Net

Posted by: Rich Phillips | 18 March 2009 at 7:10am
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Lets not forget all the families of the people who were abused. This has affected more generations of people than you will ever know.

You will see a continuing decline in youth attending your church and churches in general for generations to come. The youth of today are cynical and jaded. Not lost faith in god but faith in humanity.

Posted by: Anon | 27 March 2009 at 1:30pm
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I was actually born at the Mamou school in 1951 – something few can say. I attended there for years, and sure, I could tell some stories myself. I also was at the Atlanta gathering in ’99. I’ve not said anything ever, because I’m careful, but now I will. I believe some have talked too much about it – which is not how you’ll get well.

In sum – it’s simply time to get well and move on. I have and Jesus has. The denomination has made a very wonderful, good-faith effort to heal and cover. Both the Nanfelt and McBride apologies at Atlanta were profoundly and wholly moving, spiritual, sensitive, genuine, heartfelt, and effective – as is the beautiful Morrison letter above. I’m not pastoring in the CMA today – I’m with another group – so this is not a paid commercial.

Bear in mind that those who are ministering healing now aren’t even the actual ones who did the deeds then. They are faithful leadership, after the fact, who are stepping up to restore. I honor their efforts and so does the Lord. I will be able to withhold the extension of goodwill and release from others when I no longer need the same from the Lord. I mean, come on – what more can the Alliance do? How much is enough? And then, will enough be enough? You can’t unscramble eggs. Why continue the cycle? Isn’t it time to just have a life again? I think so – I’m going for a Harley ride tomorrow. Turn up the music, friends.

“It is the glory of God to conceal a matter…” Solomon said. Closure is built into life by the Lord, if we yield to it. You skin a tree – it covers over. You cut your finger – it heals. You can, however, keep picking at it and it will never get well. I agree that bleeding needs to happen because there’s cleansing in that process, but the bleeding can’t go on forever. At some time, it stops so covering can come.

You don’t have to be able to get well, but you do have to want to get well. That’s all. Jesus does the hard part. Closure is not a situation, it’s a Person – Jesus.

Pastor Steve Ost

Posted by: Pastor Steve Ost | 2 April 2009 at 5:54pm

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